Is your perception of me merely a reflection of you?

“They think you are stuck up.”  
The words of a friend cut through me like a searing knife. 

“They said you snubbed them when you walked by.” 

She was talking about a group of girls from the opposing team we were playing at a high school basketball game in 1976. I walked by the group while on my way to the concession stand. The thing was—I didn’t snub them. I was actually completely intimidated by them, so I kept my eyes on the path directly in front of me, trying my best not to trip over my fear.

Our perceptions of others, we learn, are not always reality. Perceptions can be biased, often skewed by factors such as our background, culture, past experiences, misinformation, attitudes and even emotions, and are often the very reflection of our own messed-up selves.

"We see the world, not as it is, but as we are." -- Talmud

In Christ Alone

“For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding”.  Col. 1:9

Do you remember the feeling you had when you first received Christ as Savior? Perhaps it was a combination of exhilaration, joy, and maybe even a little confusion as you wondered, "What am I supposed to do now?"

Grace Savors God's Love

I am delighted to introduce to you a woman I first met at a writer's conference, author and speaker, Nancy Grace. Since then, she has finished a labor of love and grace so appropriately entitled "The Grace Impact". Nancy stops by today on her Blog Tour to share a portion of her soon to be released "The Grace Impact". It is an honor to present to you... Nancy Kay Grace. 


God’s love comforts, strengthens, and restores our weary hearts. He reaches us in our despair and brings peace and a new perspective.  Below is an excerpt from The Grace Impact, p.37-40.

    Everyday blessings are easy to take for granted—blossoming trees awakening in the spring, bright sunshine warming the air after a chilly rain, laughter shared with friends. Each of these gifts needs to be savored and enjoyed, but all too often we overlook them to rush to the next event on our calendars.
Disruptions of our fast-passed life can force us to slow down and notice the simple joys. A phone call from a doctor’s office can disrupt a quiet day and change your life, as it did mine.
    ”I have some good news and some bad news.” The doctor’s calm voice sounded serious. He had my attention. I sat at the kitchen table and picked up a pen to write what he would tell me.
    “The bad news is that it’s cancer, but the good news is that we got it all and it’s very treatable.”
    He explained the diagnosis, but my mind froze on his first statement. Cancer? I choked back tears. Tongue cancer? Because of the stitches and swelling in my tongue, I struggled to form words as my mind flooded with questions.
    After hanging up, I thought about how I had gotten to this point. It had begun with a sore on my tongue that would not heal. Eventually the dentist referred me to an oral surgeon who removed the affected tissue. Because I didn’t fit the profile of one at risk for oral cancer, he almost didn’t send it off for a biopsy. Although all the tissue was removed, I had to face the fact that I had cancer.
    That evening I plopped onto my bed in despair. Desperately I called out to God in my spirit with tears streaming down my face. Weary and restless, I move to my piano where I played hymns and prayed through my fingers. In those moments of worship, a gentle but powerful exchange occurred in my heart as I released my anxiety. God gave me special assurance—a deeper peace than I had ever known. The Lord accepted my “what if” questions and replaced them with the precious affirmation of His love. The grace of God’s love would sustain me in this health crisis. I had found an inner sanctuary that became my refuge.
    In the following weeks, I had to retrain my tongue to say some words, for a while my name was “Nanthy Gwathe.” I pulled back from my church activities to sort out the confusion of the unexpected diagnosis. My speaking ministry was put on hold. Jesus became my safe hiding place. Intentional time spent reading Scripture, praying, and journaling brought steady healing to my soul. I gained perspective that God would use this trial for His Good. God’s love was shown in the kindness of family and encouragement for friends. In my uncertainty and despair the God of the universe did not remain far off, but gave me His peace and assurance in the shelter of His love. I again realized I didn’t have to do anything to be loved; I could only accept God’s love. Resting in the refuge of God brought a deeper awareness of His love for me.
    As a result, I have become more aware of the need to slow down and treasure the everyday blessing like a cardinal’s song, a butterfly on a flower, or the hug of a child.
    The cancer experience has also strengthened my resolve to use my faltering tongue to proclaim the good news and hope of Jesus Christ.

“I have loved you with an everlasting love, I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Jeremiah 31:3b
    God sent His son, Jesus, out of love for us, to bring us back into relationship with Him. He loves each of us with an everlasting love. Nothing can separate us from His love. Even in hard times His love carries us.
    Savor the impact of grace when you take time to allow your thoughts to linger on God’s awesome love. Bask in the truth of knowing you are loved more than you ever thought possible.


Nancy Kay Grace is captivated by God’s grace and love to share about embracing it is everyday life. She has contributed stories to several anthologies and published magazine articles. Nancy is married to her best friend, Rick, who is a senior pastor in northwest Arkansas. They have served the Lord for more that forty year, seeing His grace at work in many countries. Now they enjoy the stage of life with two married children and an increasing number of grandchildren.
 In a few months, Nancy will be hosting an online Bible study using The Grace Impact. If you are interested in more information about this opportunity, please sign up for her GraceNotes newsletter at

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Paul's Powerful Prayer

It’s been said, “We live forward but understand backwards.” 

For many of us, that means we can look back over our lives and see all the stupid things we’ve done, knowing there is nothing we can do to change history. 

It also gives you the opportunity to look back and see God’s protection, His providence, and His promises specifically and purposefully woven throughout your life even when you were completely unaware. 

I have assigned labels to the seasons of my life, arranged in decades. It gives me a snapshot of my life and demonstrates the sovereignty of God regardless of the stupid decisions I made. 

State of the Heart Address: From the Word of God

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Greetings, favored one! The Lord is with you, today and always. ( John 20:19)

The more things change; the more things stay the same. (Eccl. 3:15) Nothing takes Me by surprise. (Is. 46:10)

I know the times are difficult, and there are times you feel like giving up, but I will show up and take care of you as I promised. (Heb. 13:5) I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for. (Jer. 29:11)