Silencing Your Chronic Buts

I would but…

I’d love to attend but…

I feel called to lead but…

I was sharing with someone recently of how I had remained noncommittal to so many activities for several years because of the unpredictability of my chronic health issues. Even14 years post-transplant, I still have episodes lasting from a few days to a week of weakness, fatigue, fogginess, and just a feeling of having to put one foot in front of the other. I’ve learned to listen (sometimes) and rest when my body says rest, as well as drink plenty of fluids—even setting a timer to remind me to drink water.

Individuals dealing with chronic health issues simply have to learn to live a new normal.

This afternoon, I had an opportunity to share this with another woman as I “killed time” in a clothing store. (Dangerous place to kill time, I know) But we decided afterward that the Lord led us to meet as she began to share with me that her daughter, who also battles with an autoimmune disorder, had been going through the same struggles that I mentioned in the previous paragraph. I love it when this happens

I expressed my empathy with her daughter and proceeded to tell her how I had allowed these physical limitations to hold me hostage from activities for many years, for fear of having to back out at the last minute. With widened eyes, she nearly shouted, “Yes! My daughter said the same thing.”

I continued telling her of the day I finally (I know, right?) took this to the Lord who knows all my weaknesses, as well as the desire of my heart to share of Him with others. As I continued to spend time with Him over this matter, knowing that it was He who gave me the desire of my heart in the first place, I began to feel a boldness rise up within me, as well as a new perspective on my “unpredictable episodes”.  
“On the day I called, You answered me; You made me bold with strength in my soul.”
Ps. 138:3
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 
We have an enemy, the god of this world, who is bent on silencing God’s people—to keep us out of commission as much as possible. Chronic health issues can be especially difficult when trying to find a healthy balance to prevent overdoing, sending you back to the hospital.

Do What You Can With What and "Whom" You Have  

This is what I felt the Lord was leading me to do. 

1) Do what I could with what I have and when I can.

2) Throw out all personal expectations, which most likely were unreachable anyway. 

3) Acknowledge my real physical restrictions and limitations, careful not to push them too close to the edge of no return. 

4) Understand that people are much more forgiving than I thought, and if I can’t attend due to illness, the event will still go on without me. No one will think any less of me. 

The key was honesty up front, with myself and with others. Most of those in which I interact on a regular basis know of my limitations. I do what I can with what I have, trusting that the Lord will enable me to do what He’s called me to do, while leading me to the green pastures of the rest and healing I need on occasion.


That was HUGE for me. 

Allow yourself the time you need to recover. 

Maybe for you,  it’s not really health issues. Maybe it’s just a fear of others—insecurities—I totally get the whole approval thing. This too can become chronic. The enemy will use that as well to keep you from doing what the Lord has equipped you to do. Go before the God who formed you in your mother’s womb and knows you better than you know yourself. You may find the strength and courage you never knew existed in you until God begins to peel back the layers of excuses. Been there—done that too, my friend.

God wants your life, no matter what you’re going through, to exalt and glorify Him. The apostles knew first hand of physical difficulties in sharing the Good News.  Apostle Paul understood this when he wrote, “God paid a great price for you. So use your body to honor God.” (1 Cor. 6:20)

If we determine in our hearts to do what we can, God has promised His grace to enable us to do what we cannot; and by that promise we partake of a new nature, and that grace shall not be in vain. 

And for those of us with chronic physical illness and still have down days,

“Do not be grieved, for the Joy of the Lord is your strength.” Neh. 8:10

Use these days to allow the Lord to minister to your spirit, mind, and body. 

Question: Do you have a chronic issue that you feel has kept you from doing what God has called you to do?  Tell me about it below. I'd love to pray with you. 

Be blessed, in Jesus' name, 


Is your perception of me merely a reflection of you?

“They think you are stuck up.”  
The words of a friend cut through me like a searing knife. 

“They said you snubbed them when you walked by.” 

She was talking about a group of girls from the opposing team we were playing at a high school basketball game in 1976. I walked by the group while on my way to the concession stand. The thing was—I didn’t snub them. I was actually completely intimidated by them, so I kept my eyes on the path directly in front of me, trying my best not to trip over my fear.

Our perceptions of others, we learn, are not always reality. Perceptions can be biased, often skewed by factors such as our background, culture, past experiences, misinformation, attitudes and even emotions, and are often the very reflection of our own messed-up selves.

"We see the world, not as it is, but as we are." -- Talmud

In Christ Alone

“For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding”.  Col. 1:9

Do you remember the feeling you had when you first received Christ as Savior? Perhaps it was a combination of exhilaration, joy, and maybe even a little confusion as you wondered, "What am I supposed to do now?"

Grace Savors God's Love

I am delighted to introduce to you a woman I first met at a writer's conference, author and speaker, Nancy Grace. Since then, she has finished a labor of love and grace so appropriately entitled "The Grace Impact". Nancy stops by today on her Blog Tour to share a portion of her soon to be released "The Grace Impact". It is an honor to present to you... Nancy Kay Grace. 


God’s love comforts, strengthens, and restores our weary hearts. He reaches us in our despair and brings peace and a new perspective.  Below is an excerpt from The Grace Impact, p.37-40.

    Everyday blessings are easy to take for granted—blossoming trees awakening in the spring, bright sunshine warming the air after a chilly rain, laughter shared with friends. Each of these gifts needs to be savored and enjoyed, but all too often we overlook them to rush to the next event on our calendars.
Disruptions of our fast-passed life can force us to slow down and notice the simple joys. A phone call from a doctor’s office can disrupt a quiet day and change your life, as it did mine.
    ”I have some good news and some bad news.” The doctor’s calm voice sounded serious. He had my attention. I sat at the kitchen table and picked up a pen to write what he would tell me.
    “The bad news is that it’s cancer, but the good news is that we got it all and it’s very treatable.”
    He explained the diagnosis, but my mind froze on his first statement. Cancer? I choked back tears. Tongue cancer? Because of the stitches and swelling in my tongue, I struggled to form words as my mind flooded with questions.
    After hanging up, I thought about how I had gotten to this point. It had begun with a sore on my tongue that would not heal. Eventually the dentist referred me to an oral surgeon who removed the affected tissue. Because I didn’t fit the profile of one at risk for oral cancer, he almost didn’t send it off for a biopsy. Although all the tissue was removed, I had to face the fact that I had cancer.
    That evening I plopped onto my bed in despair. Desperately I called out to God in my spirit with tears streaming down my face. Weary and restless, I move to my piano where I played hymns and prayed through my fingers. In those moments of worship, a gentle but powerful exchange occurred in my heart as I released my anxiety. God gave me special assurance—a deeper peace than I had ever known. The Lord accepted my “what if” questions and replaced them with the precious affirmation of His love. The grace of God’s love would sustain me in this health crisis. I had found an inner sanctuary that became my refuge.
    In the following weeks, I had to retrain my tongue to say some words, for a while my name was “Nanthy Gwathe.” I pulled back from my church activities to sort out the confusion of the unexpected diagnosis. My speaking ministry was put on hold. Jesus became my safe hiding place. Intentional time spent reading Scripture, praying, and journaling brought steady healing to my soul. I gained perspective that God would use this trial for His Good. God’s love was shown in the kindness of family and encouragement for friends. In my uncertainty and despair the God of the universe did not remain far off, but gave me His peace and assurance in the shelter of His love. I again realized I didn’t have to do anything to be loved; I could only accept God’s love. Resting in the refuge of God brought a deeper awareness of His love for me.
    As a result, I have become more aware of the need to slow down and treasure the everyday blessing like a cardinal’s song, a butterfly on a flower, or the hug of a child.
    The cancer experience has also strengthened my resolve to use my faltering tongue to proclaim the good news and hope of Jesus Christ.

“I have loved you with an everlasting love, I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Jeremiah 31:3b
    God sent His son, Jesus, out of love for us, to bring us back into relationship with Him. He loves each of us with an everlasting love. Nothing can separate us from His love. Even in hard times His love carries us.
    Savor the impact of grace when you take time to allow your thoughts to linger on God’s awesome love. Bask in the truth of knowing you are loved more than you ever thought possible.


Nancy Kay Grace is captivated by God’s grace and love to share about embracing it is everyday life. She has contributed stories to several anthologies and published magazine articles. Nancy is married to her best friend, Rick, who is a senior pastor in northwest Arkansas. They have served the Lord for more that forty year, seeing His grace at work in many countries. Now they enjoy the stage of life with two married children and an increasing number of grandchildren.
 In a few months, Nancy will be hosting an online Bible study using The Grace Impact. If you are interested in more information about this opportunity, please sign up for her GraceNotes newsletter at

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Paul's Powerful Prayer

It’s been said, “We live forward but understand backwards.” 

For many of us, that means we can look back over our lives and see all the stupid things we’ve done, knowing there is nothing we can do to change history. 

It also gives you the opportunity to look back and see God’s protection, His providence, and His promises specifically and purposefully woven throughout your life even when you were completely unaware. 

I have assigned labels to the seasons of my life, arranged in decades. It gives me a snapshot of my life and demonstrates the sovereignty of God regardless of the stupid decisions I made.